I expect Pixie will really understand this.
Hippie Niece, A, met I some years ago and they had a relationship for a time but it did not work out and they separated. By random about three years ago they came across each other on the street and it was on for young and old. They now live together in his home, with her twin daughters, and his same aged daughters who are a year apart in age. I am not sure how often he does, but I know he is a recreational drug user. He can be manic at times but also very caring and a hugging type of person. Whatever. Niece A and he are very happy together.
Dearest Niece, he must have a big cock and really know how to use it to satisfy your appetite, he is a nice guy and must be fun to be with when you are alone together.
One of I's daughters came home from a custody visit to her mother and stated she did not want to return. Her mother is a heroin user and apparently made the daughter pee into a bottle so she, the mother, could clear a drug test.
But her younger sister was behaving badly at home and has gone to live at her mother's. She visited her mother and decided to not come back. All four children go to the same school, so at least they will still see the sister who lives with her mother.
I and his daughters are hardly direct family, but everyone has made an effort for I's daughters, including me, giving each $20 at Christmas, as Ray and I the year before.
What to say? Now't as queer as folk, or you can't choose your family.
It was a last minute invitation this Good Friday Morning, and I took the car to visit Ex Sis in Law to see her and her husband, Nephew, his wife, their 4 year old daughter and twin 2.5 year old boys. The boys still wear nappies but one came out and proudly announced he had done a big poo in the toilet. ABI Brother turned up too. It was just nice.
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Families, sigh, they're just hard work.
ReplyDeleteFamilies seem so complicated these days. When my uncle emails me from Oz about his granddaughters and their ever changing partners, babies and volatile relationships I find it a struggle to keep up.
ReplyDeleteFamilies (well mine anyway) are frequently an uncharted minefield. I really admire the effort you make to keep up with yours. Ours now includes, step/half/defacto versions but they are definitely family.
ReplyDeleteIndeed, one cannot choose one’s family. I have over a hundred cousins on my father’s side, yet I have chosen to distance myself from them all—for reasons that, perhaps, speak for themselves.
ReplyDeleteGee, that was a lot to take in!! It seems twins run in the family ? Marie, Cheltenham
ReplyDeleteTou seem to have an interesting extended family. Hopefully they will all turn out okay in the end.
ReplyDeleteYou not Tou
ReplyDeleteEvolution of the 'Family'.
ReplyDeleteSome people just may not be cut out for family life, but society encourages it anyway.
ReplyDeleteShame on that mother making her daughter pee in a bottle! Sad that the other daughter has chosen to stay with her and I hope she will be okay. it's great they all see each other at school. "My" twins still wear nappies, but they do use the toilet or their potties sometimes. I bought them rainbows-and-unicorns knickers last Christmas to encourage them.
ReplyDeleteWhat a normal life I have led.
ReplyDeleteIt's quite normal these days to have blended families with half and step siblings. It must take some effort to keep up with all the relationships and I applaud you for doing so. It's funny how you can actively dislike some members when they're children but then really love them when they grow up.
ReplyDeleteJB, dislike them we did. They were horrors, but they changed. as their life became more stable. Maybe we were wrong to have such thoughts, and I am very pleased it is now a whole lot better.
DeleteThe material included here could be adapted for a new "Neighbours" TV script. The re-launch would pull in millions of new viewers and a favourite character would be gay Uncle Humphrey who lives in a high rise block with two immigrant students called Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum.
ReplyDeleteGoodness, amazing this story. I remember you saying years ago about Hippy niece's children amazing how they change.
ReplyDeleteYou are kind person, Andrew.
Happy Easter.
I have so cousins but only keep up with a few. I'm glad you got together with everyone on Good Friday, Andrew.
ReplyDeletePeople must choose their own paths in life. They may make mistakes but at least they can own them.
ReplyDeleteWhat does ABI stand for, as in ABI brother?
Acquired brain injury.
DeleteI think that when a child is put into your world, no matter how s/he came into it, your job is to simply love them, to treat them with kindness, and to make them feel as if they belong. Sounds as if you are doing just that. Good job.
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