We lived for about ten years in a Victorian workers cottage in the suburb Balaclava. One of my favourite memories is sitting in our lovely brick paved courtyard some warm evenings, safely ensconced by ivy, ficus, wisteria, bougainvillea and a large birch tree. We would play backgammon while having a sip or two of Scotch. Once the internet arrived, things changed. Nevertheless, I remember the time so well and so fondly.
When we moved to Balaclava, there was a men's clothing store, a hardware store and many other useful businesses. There were only two places to buy a cup of coffee. Now there are a myriad of cafes but no men's clothing or hardware store.
We would make coffee at home, using freshly ground beans from the local coffee shop where coffee beans were roasted on site. At a guess, I think it was owned by Russian Jews, Balaclava being within the Bagel Belt. It took years of buying freshly ground coffee for the usual server, who was an older woman who I guess was Russian, to get a smile from her. Maybe you know the coffee roasters Hels?
It literally took years but eventually I could get a half smile from her by putting on my brightest face and a big wide smile with effusive thanks, she with a slight upturning of her lips.
As JB mentioned in a blog post, smiling is not a natural thing for some cultures.
Lordy, the place has modernised into Coffee Company, with a very slick website. Russian o rperhaps Polish woman would be long gone I guess.