That is what I should have done. Instead we visited Mother and took her our for lunch. Three hours with Mother is mentally exhausting. I don't know how ABI Brother does it permanently, even though he is paid to do so up to a point. He goes beyond.
I have no energy for a blog post and we've taken to strong liquor to recover our sanity. ABI Brother and Tradie Brother went to a concert to see singer Richard Clapton perform and ABI Brother stayed the night at Tradie Brother's home. It was dad custody weekend for her twin daughters and Hippie Niece stayed with Mother overnight. They had a great time together and Mother related some goss today about Hippie Niece and her partner separating.
I've cropped Hippie Niece out and this was a photo taken a week ago. Mother turns 89 next month. It looks like she will make 90. You'd never think she was about to die and her life is so bad she may as well be dead.
It is best to change really. Just for the sake of doing the right thing. Men expire quite a few litters on a hot night too.
ReplyDeleteRoentare, you have my attention of men expiring a few litres at night.
DeleteYour mother looks fabulous....Peta
ReplyDeleteThanks Peta. I am pleased she still tries to look ok.
DeleteI change the sheets, pillow slips and towels every Sunday morning, after two adults have used the stuff for 7 nights. Let's not waste water, electricity and human energy on overcleaning.
ReplyDeleteHels, yes we can be a bit precious about such things. I am sure things weren't done like this 100 years and people survived...err, into their forties at least.
DeleteI'm with hels. If you feel you must do something, air the bed and possibly wash the pillow slips. Your mum looks great.
ReplyDeleteMC, like his Auntie Andrew, FFN is hot in bed and slept only with a sheet over him and thanked R in the morning for putting it with the towel at the end of the bed. I will wash the sheet. There are so many pillows on the bed to choose from, I don't which pillow he may have used, so I won't bother with that one.
DeleteI'd wash the sheets, but I'm a freak. I aspire to be Hels in my next life. Your mother does not look ninety, but I have got to say, I love the line that you and R took to strong drink after your 3 hour stint.
ReplyDeleteDebby, it is not the stripping of the bed or washing and drying the bedding that is a problem. It is putting a fitted sheet back on and a doona into a doona cover. It's hard work.
DeleteI'd change the bedding, but if the bottom sheets doesn't show wrinkles indicating having been slept on then it's up to you.
ReplyDeleteYour mum certainly doesn't look like she is about to drop dead. She looks more like she will make it to 100.
River, to quote R, she'll be putting flowers on my grave. Can I give her your phone number and she can call you and tell you how close to death she is, and her miserable lonely life in great detail.
DeleteYour mom has a lovely smilie.
ReplyDeleteCoffee is on and stay safe
Dora, she isn't bad for her age looks wise.
DeleteI'd straighten the bed, air the room and put clean towels on the foot of the bed.
ReplyDeleteYour mum looks amazing - and she hasn't gone grey!!
Any time spent with aged rellies deserves strong drink. I wonder if my kids feel the same after spending time with me?
I tried to send you an email to the address on your blog home page. It didn't work.
DeleteOnce when I suggested her hair would be grey if not for her hairdresser, she no, I am not grey. During lock down without access to a hairdresser, her hair turned out to be partly greyish but far from completed grey, and not white grey like her mother's.
DeleteI'm sure your children have different thoughts about you. You are a generation different to Mother and much more outwardly looking.
I've checked and my email address is correct, andrewhighriser1 at gmail.com
Had to laugh that you had to have a stiff one after visiting your mum..lol. Bless her she does look happy in the photo.
ReplyDeleteChange the sheets Andrew, change the sheets and all linen if someone else has slept in the bed, too much left behind on the sheets, towels and so on.
Your firm advice is noted Margaret. There may be a laziness factor to add the bedding change. We should do as you say.
DeleteRegarding the bedding question, don't be such lazy ******s and change the goddamn bedding! (Well, you did ask!)
ReplyDeleteHow very dare you YP lecture me on matters of hygiene when you have a personal damp patch to deal with. But I am trying to be kind to save Household Management from the effort of changing the bed. You didn't really think I would be doing it?
DeleteAnd why wouldn't YOU do it? it's not that hard and shouldn't take you more than half an hour, less if you don't change the doona cover. If there is a sheet between the person and the doona you don't need to change the cover.
DeleteI never have visitors but I sleep hot too and must turn the temp down in the house greatly to be able to sleep comfortably. But my cats require me to change daily the pillow casings and sometimes the top sheet that they lay on, or my allergies will kick in. Although lately, I put the pillows away during the day, to avoid the necessary change. Speaking of pillows, when I overnighted at my brothers place, the bed was covered in a dozen or more pillows. I had no idea what to do with all of them, and finally piled them on one side of the bed. What is up with that many pillows on one bed? Also the bedding was tucked in so tightly I couldn't move, once under them, and finally had to get up and loosen them all around.
ReplyDeletePeople do sleep better when they are cool, not cold obviously. Our spare room king size bed has about five pillows. What people don't want to use, they can throw on the floor. Everyone seems to like a different pillow.
DeleteYour spare room has a king size bed? Wow. Maybe you should swap it out for a single so people aren't so apt to stay overnight. Heh... Blessings to you and yours.
DeleteDarla, that should have been Queen size. A single canvas stretcher would deter visitors.
DeleteMother looks great!
ReplyDeleteI would wash the pillowcase and sheets. I had to google doona, guessing it is a duvet. I wouldn't bother with washing that. Now it is dawning on me that you use a fitted sheet and doona. I have a duvet but do use a top sheet as well. Duvet is too warm.
Jackie, you are saying she isn't dying? She has us so convinced. For our summer months I used to sleep under a doubled over sheet, but with our last couple of summers being coolish and me buying a light New York loft doona, I haven't bothered.
DeleteI would change the bedding
ReplyDeleteTP, he didn't use the doona, so at least the cover doesn't have to be changed. That's hard work.
DeleteIndeed your mother has the death written in her face ! (hahahaha) I have educated my visitors, they bring their bed linen along. Son and grandson have sleeping bags, my friend who stays often has left her sleeping bag here, the only thing which I change is the pillow case, in fact I put a fresh pillow case on the bed and they can do with it what they want. And when we used to go somewhere we did the same. Visitors are nice and welcome, but they have also to work, lol !
ReplyDeleteGattina, sometimes people don't drive to our place. They would look like they were homeless carrying their bedding on public transport.
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ReplyDeleteAndrew ask your self the question …would you like to sleep in a bed where other peoples left over wind, scales hairs etc may have fallen out …we shed skin all the time….change the sheets….
Your Mum is very attractive no matter the age. and she has a lovely smile.
Happy washing
Stalker, you've got me there. Touché. She was very attractive when she was young.
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