No one wants to think about their parents doing the biz but they must have, and as our own children and grandchildren, nieces and nephews won't want to think about us doing the biz.
While I am old, I have my memories of doing rather too much of the biz when I was younger. Now I am old and jaded but I do still have a strong interest in the biz.
Naturally I don't think of my mother as being a sexual person, and I remember Mother saying to me her parents must have done the biz at least once to conceive her. Maybe her parents were like animals on heat? Who knows.
As I said, we don't want to think about it really.
Like her Number 1 son, Mother did get rather excited by male pop stars and actors of her time.
Bad boy Johnny O'Keefe was one.
Gene Pitney. (Not a bad song really)
Ryan O'Neill in the tv show Peyton Place.
Australian pop star John Farnham. Extra good when she received a wave from him as his taxi sat next to Step Father's car, along with she and Step Father dining at the same pub at a coastal holiday area.
And then there was her doctors. She had a regular doctor who she had a love/hate relationship with. She called him Doctor Dumbo because he couldn't fix her old age age problems. If Doctor Dumbo wasn't there she would see an Indian or Sri Lankan born doctor. "I couldn't concentrate. He was so handsome, so nicely dressed, beautiful thick black hair and had the most beautiful large liquid brown eyes".
Mother and son!
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Johnny O'Keefe's song has that 50's swing tone. Ah Ryan O'Neill. I think I only remember him in Love Story.
ReplyDeleteStrayer, I think the film is what made O'Neill really famous. I can't remember if I saw it
DeleteMy grandmother had no father or brothers, and her mother told her nothing about genitalia, intercourse or pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteWhen she was 18 she was introduced to my grandfather who was older (25) and worldly wise, and fortunately he understood her lack of experience and knowledge. After their 1923 wedding, he gently helped her.
In 1970, my grandmother took me aside before my wedding and asked if I had any questions about men!
Hels, that was so considerate of your grandmother, and very important if you didn't know about men. A delicate question but so important for a bride to be back then. I confess to not knowing about sex between straight young people back then. From what I do know, it was a case of male persuasion that all would be ok, and of course at times it wasn't ok. For better or worse, it is so out there now.
DeleteI never liked Ryan O'Neal for his looks, I guess he was okay as an actor, though I don't remember any of his films except Paper Moon.
ReplyDeleteI no longer have any interest in The Biz though I do still admire some men for their looks.
We are sisters River. I mostly look at men for their looks, carriage, grooming, clothes etc, not with a desire to do anything with them. I can't be bothered any more.
DeleteYour dear Mother by what you say appreciated male beauty Andrew.
ReplyDeleteOh I used to find Ryan rather handsome in Peyton Place but couldn't always get to watch it at the hospital when training.
John, well he is another story - great voice and an excellent performer.
Gene, remember that song.
Johnny O'Keefe, was never a great fan but certain was aware of a few of his songs, and we were staying at some place up the east coast one time and the entertainer was he, not long before he expired and we did enjoy his selection of songs he sang.
Margaret, it was rare but at times Mother did speak frankly to me. She was a normal person in many ways.
DeleteThe Gene Pitney record was on high rotation at home, and we kids never put it on.
I am glad you liked O'Keefe when you saw him live. His voice was a bit too raspy for my taste but he was clearly a good entertainer.
That's right, I never thought about that, I don't know if my mother had a favorite Star, I think he had lost her personality when she married my father and had no own opinion anymore. He was a womanizer and she tried to never let him go out or travel alone. What a sad life !
ReplyDeleteGattina, be assured she would have thought of someone being very handsome and wondered what 'it' would be like. It is sad about your father. Men can be terrible when they have a very strong drive.
DeleteHaving recently become a person with disability, I have been wondering if I'll ever do "the biz" again. I hope I will :) Apparently there is a group of people interested in people like me called "amputee devotees" :)) At last weekend's Mardi Gras, the people with disability float were carrying a sign that said "hey, we get horny too!!" As for hearthrobs, for me it was Shaun Cassidy and Andy Gibb. Phwoar. And when I was really young, it was Jamie Redfern.
ReplyDeleteHow to phrase this delicately James? You will be desired by some who you could please, who would not have found you interesting before your amputation. It may be what you can do to please them rather than reciprocal. David Cassidy was my lust. How disappointing he turned out to be. Andy Gibb was also a pop lust of mine in my young years but I've gone off him now. And what's his name from Flipper, one of most commented post on my old blog, only exceeded by my ten plus years ago post, 'It's time for Macca to go'. The comments and vindictiveness were amazing, in both ways. Get rid of him or he is wonderful. Lol, Macca is still going and untouchable.
DeleteAh, I Googled my brain and Flipper was Luke Halpin. I liked Jamie Redfern too. Apparently so did Liberace. The tall blond in YTT, Kirk something. He was rather hot.
Attraction is a funny thing. One person's view of good-looking is not shared by another's. I remember once telling my daughter that someone was attractive and she looked at me as though I were mad!
ReplyDeleteJB, maybe your daughter didn't actually examine the product but automatically reacted to what Mother likes, I don't. Do tell who it was if it was public figure.
DeleteIt wasn't anyone famous. You're probably right about the daughter. Daughters are a pain when they're teenagers, far more trying than boys!
DeleteOf course I don't know, and your boy/girl comparison is interesting.
DeleteYou are giving a good run on these artists.
ReplyDeleteMy youthful memories, Roentare.
DeleteYour mother had good taste.
ReplyDeleteI, too, have had a crush on Mr. Farnham.
Bob, Farnham was smoking hot. My mother did have good taste.
DeleteThere was the post grad fellow in neurosurgery, I don't know how he found time to spend in the gym, but I was so glad he did, so nice to look at.
ReplyDeleteTP, to use an old English expression, 'A cat can look at a queen'.
DeleteMy father had dashing, movie star looks with he complimented with a rather roughish persona and tons of personal charisma. I can easily imagine him doing the biz. The problem is my mother, who was on the dowdy side and often the most serious-seeming and non-sensual person in the room. Not only can't I imagine them doing the biz, it's hard for me to picture them kissing on the first date! Eventually they divorced (her call) but only after 17 years of marriage and four kids. My mother once said that the reason she got married is that she was surprised somebody like him would be interested in her in the first place. But people are complex, as I've learned over the years .
ReplyDeleteYour parents were a bit of mismatch then Kirk. It's nice to learn a bit about you and your life. Did the divorce trouble you?
DeleteThe marriage troubled me. The divorce was anticlimactic.
DeleteI was brought up in a very small Victorian country town. My mother’s only thoughts were on what other people would think, hence I remember very well her telling me at the age of 13 to “never have sex, if you have it once, you’ll want it all the time”. (Teen pregnancy no different in the bush, but everyone would know). She ruined it for me. I have a relationship with her but I don’t like her. Clearly she loved sex. Marie, Cheltenham
ReplyDeleteNice to hear from you Marie. Yes, clearly your mother did like sex. I really don't have an understanding of female sexuality, in spite of trying to learn a bit.
DeleteMy Mum liked Pat Boone back in the day and George Clooney later. I agreed with her on George Clooney, and then there is Brad Pitt & Idris Elba is a favourite of mine too. Handsome men!
ReplyDeleteLordy Pat, what is it with George Clooney? He never appealed to me. I do approve of your lustful thoughts about Brad and Idris.
DeleteIt's George's eyes! Mischief in them.
DeleteA long time ago I helped my mother with laundry and asked why she had small tea sized towels stacked in the waterbed's bookshelf headboard. I didn't know her face could turn so red. lol I felt bad for her rather than appalled. Be well, Andrew
ReplyDeleteLol Darla. We used to call them 'trade towels'. Just respect your mother because she was clearly busy at times and needed mopping up.
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DeleteToday, in the age of the Internet, there is no need for parents to tell / teach their children about these realities of life. Unlike our days, when so much was left to imagination for us, children might be getting exposed to these realities in the form of videos much before they are ready to know and understand them.
ReplyDeleteThanks Pradeep. I replied to you personally.
DeleteI had not heard of The Biz. Sounds like it was popular dance down in Australia but here in England, as far as I know, nobody did The Biz. We preferred The Twist and The Refrigerator. Are there any videos of The Biz on YouTube - perhaps instructional?
ReplyDeleteYP, oh no. YouTube has prudish owners and you won't find 'the biz' there. Maybe the biz is like the shag?
ReplyDelete"The Biz" -- well THERE's a euphemism I've never heard before. My mom was very into Robert Wagner, for some reason. I remember her watching him on TV and exclaiming, "Those lips!"
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with your mom about young Ryan O'Neal.
Steve, a contraction of 'doing the business' of course but where that came from and who first contracted it to biz, I have no idea. O'Neill was rather nice.
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